Stand up and Walk out of your History

posted on: Sunday, September 25, 2011

How to be Alone by Tanya Davis
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If you are at first lonely, be patient.If you’ve not been alone much, or if when you were, you weren’t okay with it, then just wait. You’ll find it’s fine to be alone once you’re embracing it.
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We can start with the acceptable places, the bathroom, the coffee shop, the library, where you can stall and read the paper, where you can get your caffeine fix and sit and stay there. Where you can browse the stacks and smell the books; you’re not supposed to talk much anyway so it’s safe there. There is also the gym, if you’re shy, you can hang out with yourself and mirrors, you can put headphones in.
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Then there’s public transportation, because we all gotta go places. And there’s prayer and mediation, no one will think less if your hanging with your breath seeking peace and salvation. Start simple. Things you may have previously avoided based on your avoid being alone principles.
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The lunch counter, where you will be surrounded by “chow downers”, employees who only have an hour and their spouses work across town, and they, like you, will be alone. Resist the urge to hang out with your cell phone.
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When you are comfortable with “eat lunch and run”, take yourself out for dinner; a restaurant with linen and Silverware. You’re no less an intriguing a person when you are eating solo desert and cleaning the whip cream from the dish with your finger. In fact, some people at full tables will wish they were where you were.
Go to the movies. Where it’s dark and soothing, alone in your seat amidst a fleeting community.
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And then take yourself out dancing, to a club where no one knows you, stand on the outside of the floor until the lights convince you more and more and the music shows you. Dance like no one’s watching because they’re probably not. And if they are, assume it is with best human intentions. The way bodies move genuinely to beats, is after-all, gorgeous and affecting. Dance until you’re sweating. And beads of perspiration remind you of life’s best things. Down your back, like a book of blessings.
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Go to the woods alone, and the trees and squirrels will watch for you. Go to an unfamiliar city, roam the streets, they are always statues to talk to, and benches made for sitting gives strangers a shared existence if only for a minute, and these moments can be so uplifting and the conversation you get in by sitting alone on benches, might of never happened had you not been there by yourself
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Society is afraid of alone though. Like lonely hearts are wasting away in basements. Like people must have problems if after awhile nobody is dating them. But lonely is a freedom that breathes easy and weightless, and lonely is healing if you make it. You can stand swathed by groups and mobs or hands with your partner, look both further and farther in the endless quest for company.
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But no one is in your head. And by the time you translate your thoughts an essence of them maybe lost or perhaps it is just kept. Perhaps in the interest of loving oneself, perhaps all those “sappy slogans” from pre-school over to high school groaning, we’re tokens for holding the lonely at bay.
Cause if you’re happy in your head, then solitude is blessed, and alone is okay.
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It’s okay if no one believes like you, all experiences unique, no one has the same synapses, can’t think like you, for this be relived, keeps things interesting, life’s magic things in reach, and it doesn’t mean you aren’t connected, and the community is not present, just take the perspective you get from being one person in one head and feel the effects of it.
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wearing: Lace Top-TOPSHOP, Full Length Pants-Vintage, Clutch-ALDO, Heels-L.A.M.B
Take silence and respect it. If you have an art that needs a practice, stop neglecting it, if your family doesn’t get you or a religious sect is not meant for you, don’t obsess about it.
You could be in an instant surrounded if you need it.
If your heart is bleeding, make the best of it.
There is heat in freezing, be a testament.


Have a BEAUTIFUL day everyone!
Love,
~Opal~

Balance && Love

posted on: Saturday, September 10, 2011

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One thing I like to remember when I'm outfitting myself is BALANCE. I try not to be too overbearing with the pieces I put together, so whenever I'm wearing something short that exposes  a lot of legs,  I like to balance that out by wearing something that covers me up top and vice versa. If you don't practice balance, you bare the risk of looking rather tacky.
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Lately, I have found myself waking up and falling asleep to the soothing sounds of Adele. I am a lover of prose and sometimes I feel as though my inner most feelings are being articulated through her lips. Most of her music is an expression of LOVE, which explains why I am so drawn to her beautifully crafted lyrics.

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Like many  of us, I'm one of those fools in Love, but then again, that's one of the most beautiful things about it. The exhilaration of not knowing exactly where it will take you or how it will have you reexamine everything you thought you ever knew about yourself or life for that matter. I remember watching the movie Remember Me and one thing stuck with me, "whatever you do in life will be insignificant but it's very important that you do it because nobody else will. Like when someone comes in your life and half of you says you're nowhere near ready but the other half says make her yours forever." Life is about taking chances and risking everything in pursuit of a life worth living and finding someone worth sharing that life with.
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So when IN Love, BE in Love. Lose yourself, open your heart and mind and allow yourself to be completely indulged in it. Hold NOTHING back and everything will fall perfectly in place.
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Wearing: Top: KNT by Kova and T, Lace Skirt: Forever 21, Platform Booties: ALDO, Bag: BCBG Generation

Have a BEAUTIFUL day G(ems)!!!

Pinking of you!

posted on: Saturday, September 3, 2011

 THE INVITATION by Oriah Mountain Dreamer

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It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing. It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.
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It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon...I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shrivelled and closed from fear of further pain.
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I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.
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It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can
disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.
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I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day. And if you can source your own life from its presence. I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, "Yes."
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It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done
to feed the children. It doesn't interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.
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It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away. I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.
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Wearing: Topshop Dress, ALDO nude pumps, ALDO envelope clutch, Michael Kors Watch

I Love the Romantic aura of this dress. The color, the lace, the fit...it all just feels so LOVE-ly.

Hope you all have a wonderful weekend!!
~Opal~